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Alimony in Halacha and the value of zuzim

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I am a ba'alas teshuva and in the middle of a divorce in Israel. I have been told that there is no alimony here because there is no alimony in Halacha. My parents are demanding an explanation and I am at a loss as to what to say.

Also, how do I find out what the value is on my ketubah? I have seen posts about how much a zuz is worth, but nothing current.

Thank you for your time.


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We are going through the Beis Din Rabbanut in Jerusalem. No, we don't have a to'en rabbani. We have been through mediation with a frum mediator.

Sometimes one person in a marriage can do something that there is no coming back from. Between verbal and emotional abuse, controlling behavior and "incidents" with other women, I am sure that I am doing the right thing by divorcing my husband. I appreciate the concern.

Thank you for the response. K'Siva V'Chasima Tova.


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    I advise you to consult with a "to'en rabbani", to determine what halachic rights you have. "You write, “No, we don't have a to'en rabbani". What does “we” mean? In this type of case, of you vs. him, each of you might have a separate one. - Webbe RebbeSep 06  '15 at 15:15
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    Even if he doesn’t have a to’en, you still have the right to consult with one. The purpose of this consultation would be to explore with him what your halachic rights are, and what type of claims can halachically be made against your husband, especially in light of the "incidents" with other woman. Further, he can argue your case in front the beis din, on your behalf. - Webbe RebbeSep 06  '15 at 15:16
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Not knowing any background facts about your particular case, I’m sorry to hear about the current state of affairs.

My message to couples encountering marital strife has always been that if marriage represents the fusion of man and woman, then divorce is akin to amputation.

Sometimes, an amputation may truly be necessary. However it obviously should only be used as a last resort, for example, when a person’s life is in danger due to a gangrened limb. The same attitude should be about divorce.

Marriage can sometimes be a proverbial pain in the backside, but quite often, divorced people discover that their new situation brings with it a slew of problems, which they never envisioned before they decided to do the dastardly deed, and they would have been better off staying in the marriage, as bad as it was.

I can’t forget a former acquaintance of mine, who I knew from my yeshiva days. He married late; and divorced early. I met him one day, and asked him how things were going? He smilingly answered, “Still happily divorced!” Unfortunately, a few months later, he was dead; in a suspected suicide. While I’m not in any position to judge his actions, several decades have passed, and the memory of my last encounter with him has stayed fresh in my memory. Would he have been better off staying married? Only Hashem knows.

Again, I know zero facts about your particular case, and it’s not in my place to judge other people. Remember, it’s not over until the “get” is given. Until then, there can be hope of reconciliation.

If you feel that I can be of help in any way, please feel free to reach out to me, privately and discretely: webberebbe (at) gmail (dot) com.


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    Which beis din is this being arranged through? Do you have a "to'en rabbani" (a rabbinical advocate) to help you to better present your side of the story? - Webbe RebbeSep 01  '15 at 00:41
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